I was 19 years old when we
were married and very ready for the responsibility of home, family and a loving
husband that did everything my way.
Shoot that 22 year old hunk must have missed the memo. What I wasn't prepared for was a husband who
didn't have a clue how to live out those vows.
(Malachi 2: 15) "You were united to your wife
by the Lord. In God's wise plan, when you married, the two of you became one
person in His sight".
As you can see it turns out
good but we did have a little trouble getting to "ONE" in His sight.
We started off with "I got my eye on you". But after the wedding day
that quickly turned into "don't tell me what to do". The years of the power struggle were and I for
and I.
Then life got busy with children and work and we spent many more hours apart
than together. We both misread the 'no time together' and 'lack of conflict' for a good
marriage. I have to laugh - how many
people does that happen to? Naive, not
schooled in relationships, just doing the best we could to do good to each
other. I took my helpmate role quite seriously and I set out to take care of
everyone in this family. Of course I gleaned my wisdom from my own family
experience. It never occurred to me that
my husband's wisdom from his family experience would be so contrary to my view.
Yikes that caused serious trouble through the years and bad names formed in my
brain towards my husband. That's not
healthy. We were both church people but neither of us had ever known to ask
Christ into our lives as Savior and Lord. Through the Holy Spirit it becomes a
living relationship with our Creator.
Now you are probably thinking
ok now that they have the Lord they are fixed.
Not exactly. We seem to have a
recurring pattern: we've got our eye
on you Lord, not real comfortable being told what to do, an I for an I struggle, Bible studies,
Christian family camps, church and community service kept us busy. We both misread that full and busy life for
being a good Christian family. We were
changing, we were growing but we were also missing something much needed.
A pearl to
string: Receiving the Holy Spirit and being filled by the Holy Spirit are not
functionally identical. All Believers receive the Holy Spirit at
salvation but you don't get filled just one time and ride that out for
the remainder of your life. In Ephesians 5: 18
the Greek word for 'filled' is a verb (present passive imperative) that, based
upon the tense, speaks of a continual process of filling. In other words, the filling of the Holy
Spirit involves a continual process in the Believer after salvation. When
you are full of the Holy Spirit, you are led by the Holy Spirit. When you are led by the Holy Spirit, people
see the attributes of Jesus Christ flowing out from you, the "fruit of the
Spirit." (Galatians 5: 22-23)
And
that my precious friends is beautiful
it's
what we aim at and pray for in our walk with the Lord and in our marriage
My
handsome husband I love you with my life and I am so proud of you. Treasuring
our
50 together Immersed in His love
Lyndi
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