Their "I'm right"!
When the actions of a person reveal it's more important to them to be right than do right - they qualify as a 'right fighter'! It's pretty unpleasant to come up against a "right fighter" but when there are two of them..... watch out! it's an "I" for an "I". Whoa. Not a God honoring place.
A 'right fighter's' attachment to being right creates suffering, division and discord. Resolving the problem - should be the issue - not whether it goes your way. The quickest way to lose a fight is to be determined to win it. If you're concerned only with winning, then you're concerned with only being right. That means you're closing yourself off to hearing your opponents side of things or you are listening with the intent of trumping their discourse. Too often it appears the 'right fighter' has been invaded by evil and is displaying a spirit of getting even, vengeance, or control. Don't make a relationship a competition..... that means someone you love will lose in order for you to win. In reality there are no winners once you turn a relationship into a competition. Never give yourself permission to be childish, abusive, immature or self-righteous. All earth dwellers experience painful or hurtful offenses through out their lives. You have the right to give a reasonable voice to those resulting feelings in a constructive way.
So is your opponent your friend? Mate/relationship? Business/Ministry partner? God?
"If anyone speaks, he should do it as one speaking the very words of God". (1 Peter 4:11).
A pearl to string: A beautiful lady went home to be with the Lord recently. Her love and wisdom blessed a lifetime of peoples. She always taught by the way she lived and believed that a parents words could change the way a child lives out the dreams that God has called them to. “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in a setting of silver.” (Proverbs 25:11NAS)
A favorite story her son in law likes to tell: Years ago the NBA bad-boy Dennis Rodman moved down the street from my mother-in-law. She went down to meet him and profess Jesus loved him! At another time in a restaurant, she approached his table filled with some of his friends (pretty scary dudes) and the fearless lover said, "Dennis, I was watching you on the basketball court and you moved like a ballerina. You are amazing." She told me she saw a little boy in Dennis who was still waiting to be completely loved. She was able to look past the external tattoos and lip rings to love the broken boy who had never known the love of a father. Isn’t that the same way God loved you when you were broken?
And that relates to "right fighting" how? It's a beautiful counter play to allow every word you speak reflect God's purity and love to those around you. You may never achieve it but you can work towards it.
May you always speak life into those you love.
Lyndi
A Smile From Heaven by Susan Johnson
in the mountains from Kebler Pass
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